Minimalism and identity

IdentityDo you know why I used to find de-cluttering tough? Because I felt I was throwing out little bits of me.

Do you know why I now find it easier? Because I know that’s not true.

Let me back up a little …..

 

Looking back, I think I used to identify myself through my ‘stuff’.

  • I am a confident, professional woman – look at the type of clothes I wear.
  • I am a well-read woman – look at the books on my bookshelf.
  • I am a woman of taste – look at the pictures and ornaments in my house.
  • I am an intelligent woman – look at the textbooks on my desk.
  • I am a hospitable woman – look at all the food in my cupboards.
  • I am a domestic goddess – look at all my baking tins!

 

You get the picture! Of course, not a jot of the above was true!! To be fair, I didn’t even think this myself, but I felt I was one step closer to being a particular type of person if I had the right ‘stuff’. If I didn’t even have the stuff, then I had no chance at all.

So, I got the stuff. And more stuff. And then some more, because you know ….. if I didn’t take myself seriously, then who else would?

When I finally reached the stage of knowing that minimalism was a way of life that would work for me, it was such a relief. But when I finally took the plunge and did some serious de-cluttering, I wasn’t prepared for the rush of freedom and exhilaration I felt.

You see, minimalism strips away your fantasy lifestyle and uncovers who you really are – there is nowhere to hide – and there is no longer a reason to hide. This can be either scary or liberating.

I find it liberating. And it’s given me more confidence – this is who I am. If you need me to have stuff to help you identify who I am, then I’m probably not your cup of tea to begin with.

I don’t miss the stuff and I don’t miss the exhaustion of trying to be someone I wasn’t.

Have a great week 😊

  13 comments for “Minimalism and identity

  1. February 25, 2019 at 4:16 am

    Good post. Things definitely have a way of owning us instead of the opposite way around if left unchecked.

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    • February 25, 2019 at 8:23 am

      Hi there, thanks for your comment. Yes, you’re so right about not even noticing. It’s all about the checking in! Lxx

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  2. February 9, 2019 at 2:33 am

    Yeah, the difficulty of minimalism often has to do with an attachment to the past. But fortunately, living in the now and looking towards the future is better for you than living in the past!

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    • February 9, 2019 at 12:42 pm

      Hi there, thanks for your lovely comment. Yes, too much stuff can anchor us to the past, and divesting ourselves of this can make it easier to live in the now – how true! Lxx

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  3. January 14, 2019 at 9:21 pm

    I love this, and can truly relate to it. I hope you don’t mind if I share on my blog for tomorrow. 🙂

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    • January 14, 2019 at 9:25 pm

      Hi Cristy, thank you for your lovely comment. I would be very honoured 😘 Lxx

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  4. January 14, 2019 at 2:10 pm

    It’s liberating! To be perfectly honest it does need some soul searching to find out why we collected all the stuff in the first place. You condensed it all beautifully.

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    • January 14, 2019 at 2:22 pm

      Thank you Laurel – I’m still enjoying my new-found sense of freedom! Lxx

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  5. January 13, 2019 at 1:03 pm

    Never thought of ‘stuff’ in that way before. Great post and I’m feeling virtuous as a couple of broken plastic storage boxes left the house this morning. A small move, but I hear Mr Maximal I my ears 🙂 Have a lovely Sunday x

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    • January 13, 2019 at 3:49 pm

      Hiya Nik, thanks so much for the lovely comment. Two storage boxes is brilliant and what you may consider to be a ‘small move’ is still a move in the right direction 🙂 Continue feeling virtuous!! Lxx

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  6. January 13, 2019 at 11:31 am

    This is a brilliant post, Lol. I’d never thought about my stuff in this way way before (and I have a fair amount of stuff). We don’t need things to demonstrate to ourselves or to the rest of the world who were are. Possessions don’t define us – we do, by really knowing ourselves and our character. Truly inspirational and I’m so glad I read this today. Thank you!

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    • January 13, 2019 at 3:47 pm

      Hiya Julie, thank you so much for your very kind comment. I am glad the post resonated with you. I truly appreciate your continued readership and support, Lxx

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