Do you know why I used to find de-cluttering tough? Because I felt I was throwing out little bits of me.
Do you know why I now find it easier? Because I know that’s not true.
Let me back up a little …..
Looking back, I think I used to identify myself through my ‘stuff’.
- I am a confident, professional woman – look at the type of clothes I wear.
- I am a well-read woman – look at the books on my bookshelf.
- I am a woman of taste – look at the pictures and ornaments in my house.
- I am an intelligent woman – look at the textbooks on my desk.
- I am a hospitable woman – look at all the food in my cupboards.
- I am a domestic goddess – look at all my baking tins!
You get the picture! Of course, not a jot of the above was true!! To be fair, I didn’t even think this myself, but I felt I was one step closer to being a particular type of person if I had the right ‘stuff’. If I didn’t even have the stuff, then I had no chance at all.
So, I got the stuff. And more stuff. And then some more, because you know ….. if I didn’t take myself seriously, then who else would?
When I finally reached the stage of knowing that minimalism was a way of life that would work for me, it was such a relief. But when I finally took the plunge and did some serious de-cluttering, I wasn’t prepared for the rush of freedom and exhilaration I felt.
You see, minimalism strips away your fantasy lifestyle and uncovers who you really are – there is nowhere to hide – and there is no longer a reason to hide. This can be either scary or liberating.
I find it liberating. And it’s given me more confidence – this is who I am. If you need me to have stuff to help you identify who I am, then I’m probably not your cup of tea to begin with.
I don’t miss the stuff and I don’t miss the exhaustion of trying to be someone I wasn’t.
Have a great week 😊