I told Mr. Minimal-Lol about my idea for decluttering resolutions. He thought I was resolving to declutter even more in 2019 and a look of horror passed over his face.
Oh, it’s a constant balancing act when a minimalist lives with a maximalist!
While I probably will declutter from time to time (trying not to traumatise Mr. M-L in the process!), I meant I was going to de-clutter the idea of resolutions from my life.
If you’re someone who enjoys making resolutions and finds value in them, then that’s great and I wish you every success.
However, I have made New Year’s resolutions so often and with such mixed outcomes, that I have now fallen completely out of love with them. New Year’s resolutions and me? We’re breaking up. It’s official.
The thing is – when I want to do something now or feel it’s the right thing to do, I just do it. I don’t want to hang around, not even for a day. But, all too frequently, when I make a resolution, I break it, feel guilty, beat myself up and then think it’s probably not worth it any more.
So, it’s not working.
However, I have goals and I have things I want to achieve. To me, that’s a bit different. My goals won’t carry the pressure of resolving that a whole year will be different or my behaviour will be different from the first day of the year. Also, I plan better when I set a goal and that’s helpful for me.
I can see why New Year’s resolutions are so appealing. But instead, I’m going to focus on two or three goals throughout the year. I find consistency is the key when trying to achieve something. That way, it’s not all or nothing. Even a tiny step will bring me closer and stops me throwing in the towel when I don’t achieve the impossible target I have set for myself.
Goals versus resolutions ….. it sounds like I’m splitting hairs. But one word doesn’t carry the emotional pressure and baggage of failure of the other so this year, I’m all about the goals.
Have a great week 🙂