I recently met with a lovely group of ladies in the village where I live, and we discussed minimalism and the capsule wardrobe. We exchanged ideas, different points of view and our philosophies on the role that clothes can play in our lives. It was a thoroughly enjoyable evening and it reinforced for me, once again, that minimalism and the concept of a capsule wardrobe are universal ideas.
When I spoke about my own difficulties when de-cluttering my wardrobe, I mentioned:
- Guilt for money I spent
- Thinking I might fit into them again one day!
- Not being aware that my style has changed – age, taste, preferences, shapes, silhouettes
- Not wanting to feel wasteful
- Fear of letting something go and regretting it
While there was general agreement on this, one lady said, for her, the most difficult clothes to part with were those with sentimental attachments. There was a murmur of agreement and wedding dresses in particular were mentioned!
I have written previously about sentimental items but haven’t thought about these in some time. I am now at the point where I don’t connect sentiment and clothes any more.
Or so I thought …….!
Not to acknowledge that clothes can have a sentimental pull on us is to overlook something quite fundamental. Clothes can be bound up with our emotions and those who dismiss capsules or clothes as trivial or shallow, may overlook the depths of emotion that these can stir. For example, when clearing out my mother’s house after her death, it was impossible not to react to her clothes – such a personal and special link.
I sometimes advise people to take a photo of a garment, or a photo of them wearing it. But, I am also mindful of the danger of letting clothes drag us into the past and keep us there. Memories are to be shared and appreciated, not de-cluttered and we can keep them with us always. Sharing memories can keep us mindful, not melancholy.
Have a great week 😊