My brother and his children visited me recently from Ireland. I was so excited to see them. I planned everything out, booked some events, shopped for food, cleaned the house, got bedclothes ready and finally the day came.
When I saw them walking up the drive after a long journey, I flew out to meet them. I couldn’t wait to start talking to them, find out how things had been and share all the plans for our weekend together.
My seven-year old niece ran up to me. ‘I’ve lost my hair-slide’, she announced.
Talk about being in the moment!
What was important to her at that moment was the loss of her hair-slide, not the journey or the time ahead.
Children are the ultimate in mindfulness. I felt I could learn so much from my niece. I was consumed by the plans and what we would do and where we could go. All good stuff but that remark about the hair-slide showed me that what I needed to do was be in the moment.
So, I relaxed a bit. I tried to be as fully present as I could be. We searched the car and found the hair-slide! I then soaked up every moment of that trip. And yes, we went places and did things. But sometimes it was enough to sit in silence, be grateful, be appreciative and just – be.
I am trying to practise mindfulness more and more and I try to meditate every day, to help with this. I feel the strong links with minimalism. But it’s like my de-cluttering muscle! I have to build up my mindfulness muscle and I’m a long, long way away. But that’s okay. I’m getting more aware and that’s half the battle.
I realise how much I can obsess about the past and look forward to the future. But the present is all I really have. And some days I ignore it in favour of retrospection or anticipation.
And then some days, it’s all about the hair-slide!
Have a great week 😊