For me, minimalism is letting go of physical and mental clutter to make space for the most important things. Although, these ‘things’ usually turn out to be people and experiences, rather than actual things!
If you asked me who the most important people in my life are, I’d say my answer would be very much like yours. My other half, my family, my friends and in my case, my cat :-).
So far, so good.
But wouldn’t you think it would follow that, given that these are the most important people, then I would spend most time with them and give them most attention?
This is where it begins to fall down a little for me.
Do you ever feel that the people who are most important to us, are sometimes the ones who get least consideration?
Now, I have friends that no matter how seldom I see them, we simply pick up where we left off – hi Aisling, hi Margaret, hi Carol! I am so fortunate.
But I often find myself giving far more attention and time to my co-workers than I do to my family. Inevitable, as they are the people I spend most of my time with – and many of them are great – a shout-out here to Dawn who is always so supportive of my blog! But for someone who didn’t know me, they could be forgiven for thinking these are the most important relationships in my life.
Here’s an equation I worked out: Time and attention ≠ importance. It’s a sobering thought.
So, it’s all very well for me to say minimalism is helping me figure out what is meaningful and important – and this is true. But once I’ve cleared away the mental and emotional clutter, it’s up to me to choose to spend the time I have freed up, in the most meaningful way. And that’s not simply drifting on the way I have been. It means figuring out new ways of appreciating long-standing relationships. It means being intentional with where I spend my time, as well as my money.
Minimalism is a means to an end – not an end in itself. The goal is not minimalism, the goal is a more meaningful life. And, for me, that means spending more time with loved ones.
Have a great week 😊