Fewer clothes = right clothes!

White shirt 2Regular readers will know I’m a fan of the capsule wardrobe – a limited number of pieces that I can mix and match easily, in a workable, flexible way.

I’ve moved away from having ‘specifics’, that is a top that only goes well with one skirt. Or trousers that I can only really wear for a particular occasion. Or shoes that only take me from a restaurant to a taxi and back again because no normal human could walk in them. You get the idea …

But it’s important that when you have fewer clothes, they must be the ‘right’ clothes – for you and your life. When you have a capsule and are deliberately limiting the pieces, if not the choices, then it’s essential you’re honest with yourself.

Do you ever read those lists that describe the top ten pieces every woman should have in her wardrobe? Or the key items that no woman should be without? (I don’t think I’m being sexist here – I rarely read similar lists for men!!).

I used to love these lists – they seemed like a blueprint to have the ultimate capsule. But I don’t believe in these lists any more – and honestly, I miss their magic. How reassured I used to feel when I read them. I felt the perfect capsule was within touching distance.

The thought behind them is indeed sensible and I find that if I come across a list like this now, chances are I’ll have a few of these items in my own capsule. But there is really no substitute for figuring out for yourself what you need and, crucially, WHY you need it. It takes clarity of vision about your life, a knowledge of your personal style and an honesty about your body shape and size and what works best on you.

For example, you will always find a white shirt on these lists and twenty ways to wear it. I long … I yearn … I crave a white shirt! I have bought many over the years but never wore them because (a) they just don’t suit me and (b) I never reach for them because of (a).  Either they don’t sit right or they gape or they look too formal on me …. But I have a friend who will throw one on with jeans and look amazing and then wear it with a suit and look elegant. A white shirt is just not me but that’s okay. I have found the right clothes for me. Fewer clothes means more intentionality of choice, that’s all.

Have a great week 😊

  10 comments for “Fewer clothes = right clothes!

  1. July 4, 2018 at 5:41 am

    You speak more wise words, Lorraine! (As usual.) Looks like the conversation in the comments here is all about the white shirt, and I have a bit to say on that too actually, because the elusive white shirt has plagued me to no end! I’ve always wanted one too. Last year I bought a luxuriously beautiful secondhand white button-down shirt (made with Italian cotton, complete with cufflinks and everything)…and only wore it once or twice before sending it on its merry way again. White makes me look washed out. It was so stiff that it gaped at the bust, even though it was the right size. It was impossible to iron and creased at the slightest movement. And I was afraid of wearing it because it was just so incredibly white and looked like it would magnetically attract all red wine, curry and chocolate within a one kilometre radius. Argh!!

    You are so right Lorraine that fewer clothes means more intentionality of choice. 🙂

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    • July 4, 2018 at 1:38 pm

      Hi Lisa, yes it’s funny in the comments how nearly everyone picked up on the white shirt scenario. For something that is considered to be such a ‘must-have’ in a typical wardrobe, so many people seem to have issues with it! That’s why I have become increasingly wary of other people’s advice regarding the ideal wardrobe. It’s well meant and tries to be helpful but at the end of the day, your wardrobe has got to work for you! Lxx

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      • July 4, 2018 at 9:31 pm

        Definitely interesting – the white shirt comments really have proved your point! As you say, your wardrobe has to work for you! 🙂

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  2. July 2, 2018 at 3:43 am

    Oh I am so glad to hear that I am not the only one who just can’t get the white shirt to work on any regular basis! I cringe at the amount of money I have spent trying. The 6′ blonde model in ragged jeans always rocks it. I have a black blouse that is over ten years old tho that is a go to. Same theory with your advice to do what works for us. Great post…one of my favorites. I also want to confess I tried the Marie Kondo roll in drawers and am going to have to apologize for my resistance!

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  3. July 1, 2018 at 1:45 pm

    I love the look of a white shirt too, but they have never worked for me. You are right, finding out what works for us, despite the list of “must haves” is the exactly what we need to do. Great advice!

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    • July 1, 2018 at 3:35 pm

      Hi Cristy, thanks so much for reading and commenting 🙂 Finding out what works has literally taken me years and I’m still learning all the time! Lxx

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  4. July 1, 2018 at 11:04 am

    What you wrote about the “essential white shirt” really made me smile. You’re right, those lists always say we “must have” a white shirt. But why? They don’t suit me at all! And, as you say, that’s absolutely OK. Choosing the clothes that are right for us should be an exercise in autonomy not an attempt to comply with an arbitrary list. Thanks so much for this post, you’ve inspired me to take an inventory of my wardrobe (although I’m not giving up the shoes I can only wear from taxi to restaurant and back again!).

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    • July 1, 2018 at 11:09 am

      Hi Julie, lovely to hear from you 🙂 Glad to know there’s someone else out there who struggles with the white shirt scenario!! I love how you sum up our clothing choices as ‘an exercise in autonomy’ – absolutely right. I laughed when I read about the shoes – letting them go was a bit of a wrench because I loved them so much and not being able to walk in them seemed such a trivial detail! But you hang on to yours, girl – they obviously give you a lot of pleasure! Enjoy the sunshine, Lxxx

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      • July 1, 2018 at 11:57 am

        Permission to keep the world’s most uncomfortable shoes – yay! However, if the day comes when I decide to get rid of them you’ll be the first to know. How amazing is this weather? I’m not going to say it’s too hot, but…

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        • July 1, 2018 at 12:58 pm

          Once your fabulous/uncomfortable shoes bring you joy, that’s the most important thing!! Sunshine is gorgeous and I don’t want to frighten it away (!) but wow, it is hot …… Lxxx

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