More is just more

2018-04-29 BrugesMr. Minimal-Lol and I went to Bruges, in Belgium, last weekend. It’s so beautiful and picturesque and lives up to all the good things I’ve ever heard about it. Mr. M-L was happy with the choice of beer and I was happy with the choice of chocolate.   Oh yes, dear reader – we are walking clichés!

Belgian chocolate is world famous and rightly so. It’s very rich and I think it’s made from cocoa butter – or at least the gorgeous stuff you get in an artisan’s shop is.

So, I brought a lovely box home. One evening I opened it and had a chocolate. Mmm …. just lovely. Then I had another one and that was so good, I had another one – and yet another one. (At this point, Mr. M-L is standing behind me making oinking noises).

2018-04-29 ChocolatesObviously (and this can come as no surprise) I felt sick. One chocolate was pure pleasure and if I had stopped there, I would have been happy. But eating more and more removed all the pleasure, made happiness a remote concept and ended up with feelings of regret, guilt and shame.

More is just more. It’s not better. It doesn’t necessarily bring happiness or pleasure.

It’s taken me ages to distinguish between a momentary pleasure and a lasting happiness. Eating one rich, hand-made chocolate is a joy and a moment to savour. This brings me happiness. Scoffing down many chocolates at once is a very transitory pleasure, quickly leading to sickliness and distaste.

Jacket - Hobbs, blackEqually, having one black jacket, that fits me perfectly, suits me and is of good quality brings me a lot more pleasure than half a dozen low-quality jackets.

Having too many of something is now a serious source of stress for me. It brings me no pleasure and makes me feel constricted and anxious. Some people think minimalism is about deprivation but for me, it’s about lightening the load and freedom from too much stress.

I’ve got to that tipping point with my clothes. Just need to apply it to food now! Have a great week 😊

  11 comments for “More is just more

  1. Mr Minimal-Lol
    April 30, 2018 at 4:10 pm

    My dear Minimal Lol does omit to tell all that me…. Mr Minimal Lol conversely had one beer, then another , then another and didn’t feel sick at all! Moreover there was no decrease in pleasure. Ah how we differ but then they often say ” Opposites attract” …maybe I am just a hard wired maximalist cliche. A very happy one though with my minimal girl.

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    • April 30, 2018 at 6:34 pm

      Thank you, dear Mr. M-L! And congratulations on your beer-drinking abilities ….. I think?! Lxx ❤

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  2. April 30, 2018 at 2:17 pm

    This is excellent, thanks for the reflection. I can so totally relate, as someone who loves chocolate and who has a hard time stopping at that moment of pleasure, truly savoring and then stopping.

    I will be in Belgium for work May 13-18, so this is a timely reminder for me. I was just starting to think about getting chocolate…

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    • April 30, 2018 at 6:30 pm

      Hi Cristy, thanks so much for stopping by 🙂 It’s a difficult line, isn’t it, between savouring and scoffing! I hope you have a lovely time in Belgium. Maybe just one or two chocolates?! Eaten mindfully and enjoyed?! Have a safe journey, Lxx

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  3. April 29, 2018 at 4:37 pm

    I believe minimalism is more about quality than having “more”. My absolute favorite pair of black slacks came from France years ago. Then, I almost fainted over the price but if I calculated the price per wear I was making money! When they finally gave up, I tried to find a tailor to duplicate them in the states….no one would take me seriously telling me they’d be too expensive and I could buy 10 pairs of other pants. I always shop overseas taking my suitcase nearly empty!

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    • April 29, 2018 at 5:32 pm

      Hi Laurel, the ‘quality over quantity’ equation wins every time! It takes a bit of practice to get over the initial faint-inducing price of good quality items but the cost per wear proves the point each time 🙂 Lxx

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  4. April 29, 2018 at 10:42 am

    I love your analogy here, Lorraine. It’s very insightful and rings true of my own experience, both with food and with my feeling about living minimally in general. It’s so true that minimalism is all about lightening the load and freeing us from the stress of ‘more’. So glad you had a fantastic trip to Belgium, by the way! I’d love to go there one day, too. I’m very envious that you can go to another country for the weekend. I’m literally in the middle of the ocean here. Haha!

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    • April 29, 2018 at 5:29 pm

      Thanks a million, lovely Lisa! Yes, there was a time, not too long ago where I would have thought it was lack of ‘stuff’ that caused me stress, but I know now it’s the opposite. And you’re quite right, we’re so lucky to be able to pop over to Belgium for the weekend – even better, we went on the train (Eurostar) so didn’t even have to deal with airports! So fortunate! Lxx

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      • April 30, 2018 at 6:12 am

        Now I’m even more envious, Lorraine! I hadn’t even thought of the train – but of course! Being the nervous flier that I am, that sounds soooo amazing to me. 😀

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  5. Jon S
    April 29, 2018 at 10:37 am

    Well minimalism and beer…. mmmm try that one on Mr M!

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    • April 29, 2018 at 5:27 pm

      Sounds like it could be a winner every time, Jon! 😉 xxx

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